So… some time ago I went to see a doctor🏨You do know how the wise and gold-(as they would like to call themselves🙈 well I have a better word for them🙊)- would say,”there is always something good out of the bad…like, it can’t be all bad…” well I think they actually did get this one right.. So, what was i saying before I started banging on about the old and wise😲 again? Ohh, doctor!! 💉💊💸 well that’s what comes to mind the second someone mentions doctor…needles, tablets and getting very very skin, amean damn those people can Chao your chinchin yho🙅🙅 #salute.
In any case; this doctor I met was a different kindda doctor. He is an artist, poet to be specific and very particular about details👌👌 amean the type to go all ninja on you (like literally cause we talking about martial arts trainer here mate💪💪) just for double spacing where you shouldn’t and missalignment of words..stuff like that🙆he is a lovely sight I tell you👌. So we kicked off as though old friends in an encient movie, thank heavens for small mercies of common language especially in a foreign land where everyone spits out a lot of shishishi🙊,well they do jam it up with a bit of chichi_s🙈 here and there😂😂 well, don’t shoot🔫me for telling my site of the trauma,tu🙏😕 OK so we talked about favourite poets and poems,emotional connections and relationships💑… the diff-action between sex, love, friendship, emotions assertiveness and awareness, self confidence, healing🔘…and right on that he went all wise and gold on me saying old niches like” Everything heals with time..”. And i was there like “dah! I belive in the old niche as well that time is an amazing equaliser and so with time the good out weigh the bad and if you stick it out a bi’ you might live another day and love it…” 😂😂 show off, you would say, I know✋ cause I felt it.
Now listen here for a minute please.🙏 Before I went all bonkers and started logorrhearing (you wondering what that means right??😎) well cause I am nice, ama spill a bit… So I have or had maybe 😞😞 not proper sure hey? But yeah, I “?” a mate once whom we could talk for hours and hours without actually catching a breath😊 He made me happy😀, smile😊😂…thinking back at our conversations I would swear we had to be declared mental and locked up already 😂😂. Once we were talking about mania and depression and started talking about classical conditioning and ended up giving each other names like; “Cuckoo and Weird”🙈 well I think we had a friendship honey moon phase there for a bi’ and Ahh well..the rest is history…well, the other typpa of history💔!! You got it? ?😂 OK so logorrhearing! We used to make up words. Like a lot of words for different things and logorrhearing is like a version of “verbal diarrhoea”.This is explained as “talking too much and for a long time” derived form two words logo… and diarrhoea… catching up now?? (Although this is a word we still believed we made it upossible as we were tranna find one word for “verbal diarrhoea” which is what was OUR case🙈) 😂😂like i said, bonkers💆but free💃💃I love free💖 So in all this conversations with my doctor(well all am planning to keep him on retainer now😎).
I learnt about how much art opens up our minds over again. He said something very beautiful and said; ” there is a difference between ROMANTIC💏 MATURITY and ROMANTIC💑 IMMATURITY”…
Now my brains were in bits😳😵🙆…scattered all over my thick skull💀 seeking for words🔠 to put together so as to understand this statement; not to my level of IQ but his. Guess what? I still needed him to spit it out.. the beauty of sitting right across someone with a beautiful mind and brilliant reasoning ability is that you are always waiting for the next thing thats gonna come out of their mouths like that cup of coffee ☕ or that shot of ecstasy💉 (well if that’s your sort of high). Well i dont know why people even need drugs 💊💉while even conversations can give you such a high🎡that’s in itself is orgasmic💯%. It’s what I live for❤💖
Then he explains is the typpa conversation which in itself says to the wife:
“Yes I am hurting babe 💔💔but i do understand that you are too because you can’t hurt💘 someone you love and not be mad at yourself now can you? But we are in a relationship💑 here which means we share 👫everything. Even in times ⏰like this, each one might have had a part to play so, lets unpack this and resolve it🙏👊…” benefit of the doubt kindda thing oy?😊😊
While romantic immaturity does the opposite. You go out there scream 😥🔊from the top of your Lungs how much your wife is a dog🐕and “slut”. A slapper that every man should just pull blah blah blah… then months later you realise you still love her and do get back together💑 with the very same Slut🙊🙈that you have denounced to the entire world. Now what does that make you? An utter idiot and retard really, ’cause no normal and wise would run straight into a wall with both eyes wide open👀absolutely NOT!… (well it was you who proclaimed her a wall and cancerous, right? So don’t look at me that way when I call her such…😎)
So you see how maturity 🆚 immaturity work??
Right now, you might be thinking that mature lad is raiving bonkers💊💉… who would do that?? How desperate can a man get to finally be in that position…right?
But thing is, every decision we make comes back at us at some point in our lives one way or the other. Now question is, “how calculated is your decision today? Is it today and now focused or tomorrow and forever focused?”💆💝
Remenham our talk about Will over Emotions when diving into decisions? If you forgot, go back to that post on Queens and First ladies and remind yourself because this is also that time where you consider such…
Ok let’s just say you can ask yourself this; “are there kids involved? How would my behaviour/reaction/actions from this point on affect them? Their lives today or tomorrow? She is also a human being; your partner that is, how do I feel about tarnishing her self esteem and denigrating her worth? How would I feel had it been me??” 🙆have a look into your soul for a minut because trust me; Some self reflection and selfless acts can safe both you and your loved ones a lot of greive and give you some inner peace…”
Maturity my guy. Emotional and relationship maturity💪💪 haha.
And am here sweating like… dude why would you say this to me right now?? I mean… you should have told me this some time ago before I started 🔫🔫 (🙈🙈) so many bullets and granites💣💣 at this guy I really really liked when he started acting like a real twart🙊🙉🙈😂😂
Oops!!🙈🙊 I said it🙈
Wait a minute😑😑… I didn’t denounced him or anything, I just hated 👹loving him and so eventually I just didn’t love ❤him any more hahahaha. Ok. It’s a long story… another day hey??✌✌
On self reflection:
As women half the time we blame ourselves for failed relationships. We feel we bare the responsibility to make things right, to do better maybe even look better…well I dont blame us. It’s been so since the beginning and truth is women hold families together. They are that glue that puts things into perspective and so mostly when things go side ways it’s in our nature to feel like we could have done better. Society says “bo mme ba tshwara thipa ka bohaleng… Mosadi o ngalla motsheyo…” all these says to me; “women are the glue that hold everything and everyone togeter” and so the Weight of it all has them sometimes been blamed for things they shouldn’t be….
For instance: if a man cheats, IT’S NOT on you. No. That i dont stand for… we start thinking maybe I should have worked harder on myself, looked better, sexier, maybe spent more time at the gym, lost weight, made him…. listen; he is a grown man with his brains right within his thick skull so you can’t carry his head for him and make him think otherwise; no.no.no. so, him snocking off anther girls face has nothing to do with you but HIM.
Self reflection doesn’t mean see yourself as an enemy or the cause , but says rather; see your part in it, as in actions and if you had a part to play, acknowledge that and be mature enough to accept that, even apologise for it… Yes. BLAME yourself for their actions? No. No. Never.
However, I am also not saying we have to tolerate pain, disrespect and rubbish behaviour… No. 🔘✖
Tell a person off✋🙅. Scream at them if you have to😭. Get it all off your system BUT while you at it; leave your self respect intact 👌and also; do to this person what they should have done to you; treat them well, with love💖 and respect cause doing what they did is basically sinking to their level of immaturity and insanity and you are much much bigger and better than all that….so, graduate.🎓👑💼 let’s kinds be😎
Now are you tranna show the world that you have no backbone, no personal philosophies non whatsoever; which you use to gorven your own life hence you just measure your self worth and actions by others’? 😴What do you believe and what do you stand for? You can’t fight fire🔥🔥 with fire no… have you seen fire fighters light up an already burning house? Noo!💯 They flash it with water💧💧 as they calm the flames and most importantly safe whomever they can reach in time⏰
Question to you is however: “how do you fight “the” fire in your own house?”🙇🙇
Learn to shine the light 🌞🌄in the dark places you find yourself in. Plant a rainbow🌈 in the rains☔.Do not surrender to the dark and be it. You are meant to be the light that lights it up… so be it💡💡.
When they already doubt you, why proof them right instead of proof you right about whom you are, what’s your love, what you stand for… the way i see it is, we the ones who hold the key that unlocks our private/personal lives making them public and for everyone. Rem: once you open that platform for them that says you can take the stage and air your views, and once you insult her/him you thefore tell US to do our very worst since I mean we never even claimed to love this girl so why bother to day to leave any stone unturned as we lush at her?? You open that door and i really am failing to see how you figure you can shut it all up again? How? People don’t forget. People don’t forget and it’s that momentary decision made within that second that can change our lives forever… let’s choose well. Let’s decide well.🔴
Mature emotionally so you can mature in romance, in relationships as well🌹🌹🌹
Note: you have a relationship with your family just as much…😘
Still me, your girl. I am only learning and in my learning, i do my best to share with you all my views as I see certain things… please lemme know of any critics ’cause that’s how I learn and grow. I can only hope we grow together.
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